Thursday, March 25, 2010

A bad day for block towers

Yesterday afternoon Scooby and I built a big block tower that made a tunnel over his hotwheels track. He was very proud of it! This morning it was still up when I got here but dad accidentally kicked part of it and knocked some of it down as he was walking by it. He seemed like it was no big deal but Scooby was obviously upset by it. He cried and cried about it and started saying that he didn't want to go to school. Dad was not helping much by telling him to calm down and that it wasn't a big deal. Finally he left for work and I tried to calm him down. All it took was me saying that I knew he was sad about it and so was I because we had worked so hard on it and then gave him a hug and let him sit on my lap for a minute. He calmed down and we started talking about something else and everything was fine again. A little bit of empathy goes a long way. I also think that showing empathy helps teach empathy. Preschoolers are still very egocentric so it is good for them when adults are empathetic towards them.

Outside of work, I have a lot going on and none of it is fun. I'm loving my new car but not loving that this whole thing is still going on. The dealership keeps making mistakes on the lease papers. It makes it hard because both my mom and I have to sign them and my mom is in Michigan. They have fedexed her two copies so far and mow they are going to have to send her a third. On top of that, I just found out that I was supposed to call in my old car so they know where to pick it up. Makes sense, but I didn't think of that. So my car has been sitting in the parking lot for almost three weeks and it was supposed to be turned in two days ago. I am also still working on new car insurance. I found a company that I like and got me a good deal but I still need to cancle my old insurance. All it will take is a phone call but when I get home from work, I completely shut down and don't think of the many things I need to do. Soon everything will be over and I will be able to breathe again. I just wish that I could fast forward about a month.

Yesterday I got some bad news from my mom. My Oma passed away. We knew that it was coming soon, she hadn't been doing too good but it is still upsetting. I just keep thinking of my mom and how this must be for her. She is here in the states and all of her family is in the Netherlands. She is trying to get a flight but it is expensive to go last minute. The other thing that is bothering me is the fact that I didn't know either my Oma or my Opa (who passes away almost 11 years ago) very well. As kids, we saw them once a year if that. When we got older, we saw them even less. I also realized that I never really saw my dads parents that much either except on holidays or birthdays. I was not a kid who grew up with grandparents always around and that makes me sad. I would love for my children to grow up around all of their grandparents but I know that will never happen. They will three sets of grandparents and all three live in different states. I hope that they at least get to be close with one set. This is just something that is really bothering me today (on top of everything else going on).

It's just not a good day :(

- Posted using BlogPress from my iPhone